Friday, July 23, 2004

The sand story

Relationships--of all kinds--are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.
-Kaleel Jamison

I believe however, a great deal of balance need to be striked to not to hold the sand too tightly or too loosely. Too loose, you might earn the respect and freedom from the other person but love maybe lost. Thus in my opinion, a li'l bit of jealousy and possesiveness are always important in a relationship. How much is li'l and how much is a lot, is subjective. But for sure, its presence is significant.


At 5:42 PM, Blogger ingenue said...

haha, i read that before. well, it's hard to find a balance because ur definition of "balance" might differ from ur partner's. for example, you might think that it's fine for her to hang out with other guys but she might not think so - there's when trouble comes in.

i believe that the most important in a relationship is to COMPROMISE because there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. we only compromise to make it bearable. haha. well, i'm cynical. i might be wrong


At 6:20 PM, Blogger Sutharsanan said...

That's why I said subjective XW dear.


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